This past week my daughter came home crying because her closest friend told her that she didn't want to be friends anymore. To make matters worse she said she wouldn't give her the reason why until the next day. My daughter was so sad and hurt. As she was crying she said " I'll do whatever she wants. I'll change, I just want her to be my friend." At first I was consoling my daughter, but these words, they are just wrong! As a Mom, it is my responsibility to teach my daughter that she is a precious gift, just as she is!
At no time in our lives should we ever feel the need to change ourselves in order to make someone happy or to get them to like us! You are enough, just the way you are, and allowing people to make you feel less than is something we want to encourage you to come against.
Have you ever watched the movie, "The Help"? I love the part of the movie where everyday the main character, Aibileen, told the children that she took care of "You is smart. You is kind. You is important." Maybe this is what we need to remind ourselves and our children so that they realize this affirmation of self worth.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
We live in a society that encourages us to have the latest style to wear, the whitest teeth, and the perfect body. They try to tell us that we need to try the latest false promotion of quick weightloss hoaxes like body wraps or pills which both produce temporary results. We don't need any of these things to be worthy of friendship and love.
Anyone that tells you that you need to change who you are to make them happy, is not worth it. You are special-believe that and own it today!