Friday, March 7, 2014

You are enough!

By Debi: 

This past week my daughter came home crying because her closest friend told her that she didn't want to be friends anymore. To make matters worse she said she wouldn't give her the reason why until the next day. My daughter was so sad and hurt. As she was crying she said " I'll do whatever she wants. I'll change, I just want her to be my friend." At first I was consoling my daughter, but these words, they are just wrong! As a Mom, it is my responsibility to teach my daughter that she is a precious gift, just as she is! 

At no time in our lives should we ever feel the need to change ourselves in order to make someone happy or to get them to like us! You are enough, just the way you are, and allowing people to make you feel less than is something we want to encourage you to come against.

Have you ever watched the movie, "The Help"? I love the part of the movie where everyday the main character, Aibileen, told the children that she took care of  "You is smart. You is kind. You is important." Maybe this is what we need to remind ourselves and our children so that they realize this affirmation of self worth.


"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

We live in a society that encourages us to have the latest style to wear, the whitest teeth, and the perfect body. They try to tell us that we need to try the latest false promotion of quick weightloss hoaxes like body wraps or pills which both produce temporary results. We don't need any of these things to be worthy of friendship and love. 

Anyone that tells you that you need to change who you are to make them happy, is not worth it. You are special-believe that and own it today!

10 comments:

  1. Girls can be just plain mean. It's a tough lesson to learn. I don't know why it has to be this way. And it doesn't change in adulthood either...I had this happen to me a few years ago and it broke my heart.

    Wendy@TakingtheLongWayHome
    http://oldrunningmom.blogspot.com/2014/03/ouch.html

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    1. Thank you Wendy! It is a tough lesson to learn but unfortunately it is something we all must learn at one time or another. Just never thought it would be so soon. I am so sorry you had to endure this!!

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  2. Elementary school girls are so tough. I work very hard with my students on this, but it is a tough lesson to teach. I hope your daughter is okay.

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    1. Thank you so much Abby, you are a wonderful example!! She is doing great, she even said the other day that if her friend doesn't like her for how she is then that's tough, I was so proud. :)

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  3. We have such a huge task in raising little girls, but I can testify that you are doing an amazing job with Sierra!

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    1. Cecilia, thank you so much, your kind words mean so much to me!!

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  4. I love this so much - Samantha is starting to experience some of this same stuff, even just in kindergarten. I try to remind her all the time that she is wonderful just the way she is!

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    1. Thank you Kristen. It's amazing that our children are having to experience this at such a young age. Thank goodness, your daughter has you as a wonderful role model <3

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  5. What an awesome post! Girls and people in general can be so mean! I have two boys...but they experience this to a degree too. It's sad.

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    1. Thank you Mindy! Yes people can be so mean, and it's sad that our children have to go through this. You are such a wonderful role model for your boys of a strong and beautiful woman that is capable of anything. Luv ya girl!

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